Seven Steps To Defeating Your Greatest Weakness

I’ve hated this about myself for over twenty years. Every day for the last 20 years I’ve thought about it, every single day. I’m embarrassed by it and it’s held me back in ways I’ll never be able to quantify. It’s my kryptonite.

It’s the biggest challenge I’ve ever faced. I’ve had total control over it but I’ve neglected it. Every day I made a withdrawal from it. You can only do that so long. I could only do that so long.

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What happens when you confront your greatest weakness?

Everything becomes manageable when you confront your greatest challenge.(Highlight to tweet/share) I remember an interview with the head coach of a college football team that had been crushed by penalties. They were rebuilding the program. They asked him about how hard it would be to rebuild the program and he said it wouldn’t be as hard as it is having a child with a disability, which he and his wife have. He had a larger challenge in his life so coaching a team wasn’t as scary.

I’m confronting my greatest embarrassment. I’m confronting it because it’s finally causing me enough pain. I’ve been sick and tired of it for many, many years but I’m finally sick and tired of being sick and tired.

There will be many starting points

This morning was my first appointment and I sat in a chair for three and a half hours while they worked on me. They’re just getting started. When I left my appointment I sat in my car for 30 minutes just staring out into nothing. My mind was tired. My spirit was tired. This is a long battle and I just started, but I started.

I had confronted my greatest fear, my greatest embarrassment. I was weary.

Everything becomes doable

Then I went on with my day and something powerful happened. Nothing felt like a challenge. I had already confronted my biggest challenge for three and half hours in that chair.

When we confront our biggest challenges we prove that we can conquer everything else. (Highlight to tweet/share)

What is your greatest weakness?

What do you hate the most about yourself?

Is it something about your body?
Is it your attitude?
Is it where you live?
Is it your job?
Is it your car?
Is it your friends?
Is it your income?
Is it your lack of energy?
Is it your past?

What do you want to change that would prove you can change anything?

It might be the hardest thing you’ll ever do

We don’t touch it because it seems too much. It’s 200 pounds. It’s a job we can’t leave. It’s the friendship we don’t know how to end.

What if we could change it? What if the pounds eventually went away? What if there was another job? What if there was a healthy friendship waiting for you? What if you could change that one thing?

What else would change in your life?

How to enter into change

Alcoholics Anonymous and Christianity are based on this premise, “I am broken and I can’t fix myself.” You don’t need to “come to Jesus” if you’re not broken.

Your largest issue is real and you can’t fix it alone. (Highlight to tweet/share)

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Seven Steps To Finally Defeating It

Step one: Admit you’re broken and want to change. This requires humility. We all want perfect Instagram worthy lives but life isn’t like that. Life is messy. (Highlight to tweet/share) Admit the issue. Say it out loud.

Step two: Ask for help. You haven’t been able to beat this alone. If you could you would have fixed it by now. You would have lost the weight, found a different job or fixed whatever big issue in your life that you want to go away.

I started by telling my wife I was afraid and embarrassed. I wrote her an email because I communicate better in that medium. Do whatever it takes to communicate your feelings as they really are.

Step three: Get professional help. You might need a trainer, counselor, or a health professional. Don’t discount natural methods before going to the medical establishment. God’s creation has a lot of healing powers in it and they’re often much less expensive and more effective than our traditional medical system. I had to go to traditional medicine and I’m ok with that. I needed their help. Whatever you do to get help, get help.

Step four: Go public with friends. I didn’t go public to friends because I was showing how strong I was. I called out my issue because I was tired of carrying it all myself. When you expose the thing you fear the most it can’t go hide again. (Highlight to tweet/share) When you show those you love that you need help and want to change, they’ll help. (Highlight to tweet/share) Not all of them will help but many of them will. Remember, you need help.

Does asking for help mean you’re weak? Yes, it does. But who said you have to be strong? (Highlight to tweet/share)

Sometimes the strongest thing you can do is admit your weaknesses. (Highlight to tweet/share)

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I posted my fear on Facebook because my Facebook friends are my actual friends. I have a public page for my business/brand and then I have a Facebook profile. My Facebook friends get me. In less than 24 hours I got 38 likes and almost 30 comments. I didn’t expect that but I’m not surprised by it either. I have great friends and they love me. I just needed to let them know where I needed their love and encouragement.

Admit publicly

Step Five: Let people love you. People love you. Give people a chance to love you. Be honest with them. Be strong and admit your weaknesses. Admit your struggles and clearly state “I want to change and here’s what I’m doing about it.”

Step Six: Go back to the professional You’re going to be tempted to go back to trying to fix it yourself. Don’t do that. You can’t fix it. It’s taken you a long time to get here and you need help. Don’t fall back into the superhero role. You’re not your own savior. Accept the help.

A practical tip is to make the next appointment at the end of each one. Keep making appointments or setting up meetings so you’re locked in to taking action.

Step Seven: Take complete responsibility for your future The rest of your life is your responsibility. If you’re overweight because your parents taught you to eat crappy food or you hate your job because your boss is a jerk face then I get it. You’re taking responsibility from here on out. Decide now that your future is your responsibility. (Highlight to tweet/share)

You will be encouraged.
You will be supported.
You will improve your life.
You will confront your biggest obstacle.

When you confront the worst thing everything else becomes achievable.

What are you going to confront?

37 Steps To Never Publishing a Blog Post

If you’re like me, you write too much helpful content for your readers. This 37 step process will ensure you write even less helpful content.

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  1. Wake up with only enough time to get ready and head straight to work.
  2. Listen to the news, talk radio or music that you can sing along to. This will distract you from independent and create thought.
  3. Your first work task should be to check your email.
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  5. Start with the newest emails, not the most important ones. This ensures you’ll feel behind and work on things that will give you little feeling of achievement or traction in your work.
  6. While checking email, respond immediately if someone emails you even if you’re working on a different task.
  7. Check Twitter.
  8. Continue switching between your most recent emails and new emails. This can continue for up to an hour with no real measurable work being completed.
  9. Now in a reactive mindset, allow other people’s needs to dominate your headspace the rest of the day.
  10. Take a mental break to other content creator’s content.
  11. Read them with a mindset of regret that you did not publish anything yesterday so you’re reading someone else’s content. It’s important to focus on feeling regret. This will ensure you don’t take action and live only in the past.
  12. Add some of your articles to an article saving service like Pocket or Instapaper. This will ensure you always feel behind on your reading because you have no plan for when or how to work through those articles. They will sit there reminding you of your failure to make time to read.
  13. Turn on a music streaming service that is highly customizable.
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  15. Ignore any playlists you’ve created, especially ones that are entitled “Writing music” or “Concentration”.
  16. Search through new music from artists you’ve never heard of.
  17. Return to your writing playlist after remembering you’ve created a playlist to help you stay focused on your writing.
  18. Open a distraction free writing program you’ve paid for like Byword, Ommwriter or Scrivener.
  19. Check Twitter.
  20. Stop to feel regret that you haven’t written anything original in over a month.
  21. Immediately open your web browser and open three tabs. A technology news site, a major news outlet like and Facebook.
  22. Tell yourself you will only spend five minutes on these pages, total. You need a mental break from the upcoming emotional outpouring that’s coming when you start writing.
  23. Scan headlines on the tech website and click the Command + the link for the article to open each one in a different tab. Do the same with the major news outlet. You should have a minimum of 10 tabs open now.
  24. Scan through each article but never finish any of them. Remind yourself of the technology tools you still want and how messed up and scary the world is. This will take a minimum of 10 minutes.
  25. Having closed all the tabs realize you’re five minutes over your time limit and haven’t even started Facebook. Focus on feeling regret for your lack of discipline.
  26. [Tweet “Focus on feeling regret for your lack of discipline. #37waystofail”]

  27. Click on the notification area of Facebook and scan through your mentions and updates from sources you follow. Use the Command + Click method to open multiple tabs in your browser resulting in another ten browser tabs to work through.
  28. Because you left your account profile as “online” in the chat you will often get personal messages from friends that live on Facebook. Stare at these messages for 10-15 seconds trying to decide if you’re going to respond since they obviously know you’re on-line.
  29. Respond briefly and use the phrase “I was just jumping on to check…” hoping they’ll get the hint you are serious about getting stuff done!
  30. End the conversation and feel guilty about dismissing them. Regret (for the third time) opening Facebook in the first place.
  31. Feel disappointed there aren’t more notifications to look through.
  32. Check Instagram.
  33. Experience the phenomena known as #instajealous, a condition that happens whenever you see your friends’ filtered lives on Instagram and experience jealousy at their happy, perfect lives compared to your mundane, boring life.
  34. Close your web browser because you are now really ready to write.
  35. Stare out a window and think about what you want to write about.
  36. Decide a list post is the easiest because most list posts are seven points and that’s doable with the time you have left to write.
  37. Begin to think of topics to write about and realize that you can’t think of an original idea because your day has been dominated by reading and listening to other people’s content.
  38. Feel regret for starting your day off by reacting and that you didn’t wake up early enough and pledge that tomorrow you will definitely get up early.
  39. Give up and promise that tomorrow you will write. Tomorrow you will get up early, not check email, not check Facebook, not check Instagram, not check Twitter, not read or listen to anything created by anyone else.
  40. Feel regret that you said the same thing yesterday.
  41. [Tweet “Feel regret that you said the same thing yesterday. #37waystofail”]

What Goes Online, and Offline

The finer point about online life that people probably are coming to understand as they gain experience is that some things from the real world may work better online — which does not detract at all from the fact that there will always be plenty in our lives that cannot get emulated as Web content at all.


Playing a New Game


We may see a day when certain communities in the real world elect to create local Webs in which the relationship between the actual physical place and its online presence abides by unique social contracts.


For example, imagine a certain community, perhaps a small town, that holds a consensus about certain environmental codes, including restrictions placed upon businesses with land-base shops or malls. In such a place, no business with outrageous power consumption and waste would be allowed to operate a brick-and-mortar retail outlet if the same commerce could be managed from a local website instead. Can you imagine how such a town might feel? No billboards, no ads, no strip malls or box stores or gaudy entertainment venues.


Certainly there are certain things that some communities (any community) might agree to outlaw in physical space, yet allow online in that province. This might even have the opposite effect by giving those communities a way to tolerate more of what people enjoy doing that may not meet with everyone's approval. This might include poker, other kinds of gambling, or club-type interest groups with narrow foci that may not fit in comfortably in town. The Internet might be rediscovered as a way to actually manage and execute democratic governance.


The Case of Entertainment


Since even in this day and age we still encounter fighting amongst people over what is decent enough for public spaces, the above use of local Webs does seem to provide a workable solution and perhaps even a remedy in places with heated disputes.


Entertainment is a particularly hot area for disputes over what is acceptable in terms of online media, as well as local performances or controversial products and services offered. Artists, whether pop or avant garde, usually push boundaries and push our buttons in the process. Other types of pastimes like gambling attract moralists who feel nobody needs the right to decide whether the thing is good or bad for oneself.


The Internet may be able to chill out such disputes by delivering satisfactory concessions to all sides. Whatever entertainment cannot muster a community's consensus regarding its acceptability in local physical space (it could be a video game parlor, or an adult bookshop, or, a small casino) might be relegated to online space at least for an interim, while public debate can happen.


The Virtual Casino Model


Already, as a matter of fact, land-based casinos are in the position to consider closing their monstrously wasteful casino complexes in favor of online gaming businesses instead. The states with regulated, legal gambling like California, New Jersey, Nevada and others with Indian Reservation-based casinos are clamoring onto the Web with virtual versions of their games.


In some cases, online casinos hold big benefits to players. For example, a sincere love for poker or blackjack can be satisfied online whereas it may be impossible to play otherwise. This also opens up certain games to underrepresented groups of players worldwide. Games like Roulette, before Web casinos arrived in 1994, had been the domain of the upper crust, who could afford the high-stakes rooms containing roulette wheels or other elite gambling games. Now, anybody can enjoy Roulette, even on a penny bet.

If you wouldn't mind following up this example by checking out some reputable online casinos, then you could survey for extra insight into the phenomenon. Strange to think it, but, Web-based casinos could be on the forefront of a powerful new trend when it comes to deciding what is best allowed online rather than within a localized community.


3,000 Dissatisfied People in Portland (World Domination Summit 2014)

Tonight I’ll land in Portland, Oregon to gather with 3,000 people for the World Domination Summit. It’s not as threatening as it sounds. As bombs drop in Syria, Iraq, Ukraine and other parts of our world we’ll be gathering to find common ground. I have never seen such diversity coexist in peace.

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A picture from last year with my friend Jeff

Our common thread
Our common thread is strong. We encourage each other. We treat each other to drinks. We assume the best of each other. Our common thread is that we’re all dissatisfied. It’s required to come to WDS.. You have to be hungry for more. Awesome is the new average at WDS. Awesome work, awesome relationships and awesome conferences are what we expect of ourselves.

3,000 journeys
The World Domination Summit is 3,000 people on 3,000 journeys toward better selves and collectively toward a better world. It sounds like we’re going to Woodstock but most of the event is the traditional conference setting where you sit and listen to people who you want to be like. That’s where the traditional ends though.

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The speakers don’t get paid.
Speakers that command $25,000 a speech are working for free. They do that because they’re dissatisfied too. They want more from life and they know that WDS is a place where they can come give and get filled up. The speakers don’t leave. They come early and sit in the audience like the rest of us.

WDS is a non-profit
The founder (more on him in a minute) could have made this a huge money maker. The scale of the number of people coming is massive. It sells out every year, even when though they’ve doubled the amount of tickets, twice. WDS attendees aren’t against making lots of money, it’s one of the things we probably all have in common, but the fact that WDS is a non-profit gives us all a sense of ownership. There’s a collective expectation to make it better.

The founder is just like us
No one is more important than anyone else at WDS, even the founder Chris Guillebeau. We know each other because we know Chris but he’s not the celebrity, the community is. We’re friends. We’re adventurers. We’re sojourners.

Here’s to world domination, the good kind.

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Better More Than Not Enough

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  • Adventure
  • Friends
  • Pens
  • Love
  • Sleep
  • Ideas
  • Clean water
  • Risks
  • Tape
  • Kids
  • Kisses
  • Pillows
  • Underwear
  • Chances
  • Unfamiliar roads
  • Notebooks
  • Silence
  • Solitude
  • Optimism
  • Park benches
  • Pondering
  • Days off
  • Museums
  • Chiropractic adjustments
  • Windows
  • Grace
  • Creeks
  • Zoos
  • Road trips
  • Play-doh
  • Outlets
  • Tape
  • Memories
  • Sunny days
  • Zip codes
  • Conversations with strangers
  • Backpacks
  • Questions
  • Music
  • Sacrifice
  • Post cards
  • Christmas lights
  • Snuggling
  • Being off-line
  • Doodling
  • Books started
  • Accountability
  • Coincidences
  • Harvests
  • Planting
  • Sandbags
  • Pretending
  • Apologizing

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